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Six Keys to Better Sex.

Six Keys to Better Sex.

Last updated on: November 15, 2018 at 3:13 pm by Dave Willis

Six Keys to Better Sex. 2018-11-15T15:13:09-05:00 Dave Willis

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When you and your spouse improve your sex life, you’ll simultaneously improve your marriage. It’s as simple as that. It takes a lot more than a great sex life to build a great marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a great marriage without it!

As I’ve interacted with couples from all over the world, I’ve discovered that there seems to be an epidemic of unfulfilling sex (or sometimes no sex at all) happening in modern marriages. This tragic neglect or misunderstanding of sexuality has the potential to wreck a marriage. Don’t let that happen!

Sex is a beautiful, God-given gift. You should make it a priority. You should enjoy it. Your spouse should enjoy it too.

Every couple is different and there is rarely a “one-size-fits-all” approach to anything, but I’m convinced that this six basic principles would instantly improve the sexual fulfillment in most marriages. Give it a try! This is the kind of “homework” you’ll actually enjoy. 🙂

These first three apply BEFORE sex:

1. Make foreplay an all-day event.

Foreplay shouldn’t start thirty seconds before you plan to have intercourse (I’m talking to my fellow men out there on this one)! Find ways to flirt with each other throughout the day. Send flirtatious and/or thoughtful text messages to let your spouse know they’re on your mind. Those consistent little acts will help set the mood for romance later.

2. Tell your secrets.

One of the biggest barriers to true intimacy in marriage is a lack of trust. Your spouse needs to feel completely safe and secure with you to fully engage in sexual intimacy. Secrecy is an enemy of intimacy, so make sure you’re communicating consistently, openly and honestly at all times. Your transparency will create trust and that trust will ultimately create better sex (and a better marriage).

3. Serve each other.

You should serve each other throughout the day so that your spouse’s mind can be freed up to enjoy the moment. Husband, this might mean washing the dishes or folding laundry. Wives, this might mean giving your husbands a back rub to help him relax. Find ways to serve each other and you’ll be building a bond of intimacy before you even get to bed.

These next three apply DURING sex:

4. Tell your spouse what you like (and what you don’t like)

Your spouse is not a mindreader. Be open and honest about what feels good and what makes you uncomfortable. Communication is vital to a mutually pleasurable experience.

5. Have fun.

If your’e not having fun while you’re having sex, then you’re doing something wrong! Bring your sense of humor. Be playful. Be adventurous. If it always feels like work, then talk to your spouse about the issues that might be holding you both back.

6. Be mentally monogamous.

Don’t bring outside “fantasy” into your bedroom. Both your body and your mind have to be fully present in the moment, so don’t allow porn or erotic romance novels to put images in your mind that will create fantasies that don’t involve your spouse. True intimacy requires monogamy (both physically and mentally).

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For additional tools, you should read our bestselling book, “iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage” which is available on Amazon as a Paperback, Kindle ebook and audiobook (by clicking here) and is now also available on iTunes as an ebook download for iPhones, iPads and all Apple devices (by clicking here)

For ongoing encouragement and marriage-building tools, you can also connect with me on twitter by clicking here.

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