5 things to do when your spouse walks out

Last updated on: November 8, 2017 at 10:30 am by Dave Willis

5 things to do when your spouse walks out 2017-11-08T10:30:22-05:00 Dave Willis

LOGO Patheos Explore the world's faith through different perspectives on religion and spirituality! Patheos has the views of the prevalent religions and spiritualities of the world.

3. Take full responsibility for anything you've done to contribute to the breakdown in the marriage. Admit your own mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

3. Take full responsibility for anything you’ve done to contribute to the breakdown in the marriage. Admit your own mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

You can’t force your spouse to see all their own faults and take responsibility for their own wrongdoings, BUT you can model the way by going first. Even though your spouse might be the one with the “majority” of the fault here, you still need to swallow your pride and take responsibility for what you’ve done wrong and admit what you could have done better. Ask for a fresh start.

If you say, “I’m sorry, BUT…” or “I’m sorry if you got your feelings hurt” or any apology that deflects responsibility or adds an excuse on the end, then you’re not really apologizing. Swallow your pride and apologize. It’s disarming and it paves the to healing. Say, “I’m truly sorry that I hurt you. I have no excuse for my actions. I was wrong. Please forgive me and allow me the opportunity to rebuild the trust I broke.”

If and when your spouse apologizes to you, say, “I forgive you. I’m letting go of my right to get even and choosing instead of pursue healing in this relationship. I won’t use this offense as ammunition in future disagreements. I love you. Let’s move forward.”

4. Follow your commitments and your faith; NOT your feelings.

We live in a world that worships feelings. In fact, we’ve even reduce “love” to be nothing more than a fickle feeling, but love is actually MUCH more than that. Love is an action rooted in commitment. In the days ahead, you will have all sorts of feelings. Those feelings and emotions might help you process what’s happening, BUT those feelings were never intended to be the compass to guide you. Instead, trust your commitments and your convictions. Stay the course. Keep fighting for your marriage (especially on the days you don’t feel like it). Your feelings will probably catch up eventually. This ties in directly with #5…

Slide: 3 of 5

Go back Continue Reading

Marriage

Previous Post

September 1, 2016

7 Ways to Heal a Broken Marriage

Next Post

September 6, 2016 7 Keys to Being a Good Spouse and a Good Parent at the Same Time

Browse Our Archives

Select a Category Bible Study Family and Parenthood General Inspiration and Encouragement Life Tools Marriage Uncategorized Videos

Select a Month August 2022 May 2018 February 2018 January 2018 December 2017 November 2017 October 2017 September 2017 August 2017 July 2017 June 2017 May 2017 April 2017 March 2017 February 2017 January 2017 December 2016 November 2016 October 2016 September 2016 August 2016 July 2016 June 2016 May 2016 April 2016 March 2016 February 2016 January 2016 December 2015 November 2015 October 2015 September 2015 August 2015 July 2015 June 2015 May 2015 April 2015 March 2015 February 2015 January 2015 December 2014 November 2014 October 2014 September 2014 August 2014 July 2014 June 2014 May 2014 April 2014 March 2014 February 2014 January 2014 December 2013 November 2013 October 2013 September 2013 August 2013 July 2013 June 2013 May 2013 April 2013 March 2013 February 2013 January 2013

TAKE THE

Religious Wisdom Quiz

What does "Melchizedek" mean in Hebrew?

Select your answer to see how you score.

Servant of the Most High Priest of the Lord King of Righteousness God's Anointed

Books by This Author Books by Dave Willis

See All Titles »