It’s Time to Choose to Be Offended

Last updated on: January 2, 2019 at 4:29 pm by Christopher D. Cunningham

It’s Time to Choose to Be Offended 2019-01-02T16:29:04-06:00 Christopher D. Cunningham

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In October 2010, Elder David Bednar delivered a General Conference talk titled “And Nothing Shall Offend Them.”

This talk has been especially long-lasting. And it has firmly placed “Choose to be offended” into the Latter-day Saint lexicon.

He said, “To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else.”

What has happened recently is that this language has been misappropriated and decontextualized by those who oppose efforts by Latter-day Saints to ask for fair treatment in the media or public sphere. Since that’s one of the major purposes of this blog, I thought it would be worth addressing.

I have heard people argue that we shouldn’t find anything inappropriate because that is merely being offended and we should choose instead to simply not be offended.

This is a misunderstanding of Elder Bednar’s remarks.

In his talk, Elder Bednar spoke about visiting the homes of those who no longer attend church. Many of them describe no longer attending because they felt offended. Many of these same people still had testimonies of the restored gospel. Because they felt offended, however, they no longer attended church to receive the benefits of it.

It’s in this context that Elder Bednar clarifies that you choose to be offended, to make the point that people can choose to not be offended and thus continue to receive the blessings of the sacrament, etc.

Elder Bednar was not suggesting that because being offended is a choice we must always choose not to be. Rather he suggested that because we being offended is a choice, we can, when necessary to receive other outcomes we want, choose to not be offended.

Elder Bednar never suggests that it is wrong to feel offended in all situations. In fact, he invites us to learn from the Savior’s example which includes several episodes of speaking out forcefully against offensive words or actions.

In a world that is now often described as “perpetually offended,” it hardly seems radical to say, but there are times when we should be offended. Or more accurately, there are times when we should fight back against offensive things.

This does not mean that we should be hyper-sensitive to every possible offense. Because we can choose to be offended, we should choose wisely.

For example, someone recently vandalized a Utah highway calling Joseph Smith a pedophile. Yes, it’s clearly hateful and untrue, but it’s written by someone who is clearly powerless and without influence. They make a claim that while disgusting is so outrageous it is likely to be largely ignored. And those who were in power promptly removed it. It would probably be unwise to spend time being offended about it.

However, Hemant Mehta, who writes on this very site, and commands a large audience, endorsed the vandalism and misrepresented the facts to make its claims seem possible. If we choose to fight against this offense, that is probably the wiser direction to face.

Feeling offended is simply resentful annoyance. By itself, it accomplishes nothing, and can, in fact, hinder us from fully facing the people who need to be confronted.

But the ability to “judge righteous judgment” as Jesus commanded, to identify that which is unfair, unholy, unkind, or blasphemous, is essential. Jesus showed no hesitation in calling out the power brokers of his time. I hope to follow His example. I feel no shame in confronting that which is offensive. And no one misrepresenting the words of an apostle will change my mind.

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