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Melinda Selmys is a Catholic-in-exile. She writes from the existential peripheries about feminism, domestic abuse, queer issues and spirituality. She offers a voice for the many Catholics who love their faith, but don't feel safe within their Church.

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Toxic Masculinity, Toxic Masculinity, TOOO-XIC Masculinity (And Femininity...

Is masculinity really toxic? And if there’s toxic masculinity, shouldn’t there be... read more

Get Behind Me, Tony Esolen: Stop Making Marriage...

Usually I avoid reading Crisis magazine because I think it’s editorial policy... read more

Don’t Unfriend the Nazi: How Ideological Abuse Isolates...

I've been thinking a lot about the "do you have to unfriend... read more

The Powerlessness of Prayer: On Detaching with Love

I had called, and shouted, and pleaded, bullied and begged, bargained and... read more

Fearful Resurrection

We always see the Resurrection from the point of view of those... read more

The Power of Negative Thinking: On Trauma and...

It was my last year of high-school, late at night, and my... read more

28 Guaranteed Ways to Drive Any Man in...

I recently read an article written by a Catholic woman in which... read more

8 Ways Catholics May Enable Domestic Abuse

In the few weeks since I started to blog about my experiences... read more

Why Am I Still Writing For Patheos Catholic?

Several months ago, I announced that I was no longer able to... read more

Sexual Coercion and Spousal Rape: What the Church...

It was after the birth of my sixth child, my family had... read more

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