“Tell me something good.”

Last updated on: June 9, 2011 at 6:03 am by Lynn Hayes

“Tell me something good.” 2011-06-09T06:03:30-04:00 Lynn Hayes

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It’s human nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Nobody wants to feel bad, or go through difficult situations. I have been an astrologer for more than half of my life now, so it’s hard for me to remember what it was like before I new about planetary cycles that were likely to bring challenges that required adjustment and change, but I imagine that it is pretty confusing. Life is going great, and then all of a sudden here comes a curve ball and suddenly I’m feeling depressed for apparently no reason.

Some of you have heard me say that I have the hardest chart I’ve ever seen, and I like to think that’s so that I can bring some understanding to the table when consulting with clients. When I talk about healing the core wound, or dealing with depression, it’s not just a concept – I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to consider suicide. I know what it’s like to feel that life will never get any better. But I also know what it’s like to have moved through these horribly difficult times and come out the other side with great joy and happiness.

Sometimes in a consultation the client will say “I’ve just had a terrible time but now I want to move on. Tell me something good.” And it would be easy to help her to forget about where she has just been and talk only about the Jupiter transits that are coming, or the fact that her Moon has just progressed into Sagittarius which will make it easier for her to avoid the pain that she’s feeling. But my experience tells me that before we can REALLY move on, we have to understand what just happened. Where did those feelings of despair come from? What was happening in the client’s chart when his wife had an affair? And perhaps most importantly, when will these bad feelings start to subside?

To me, this is the magic of the astrological consultation: to take the distress of feeling bad and transmute it into an excitement over the transformation that is occurring.

This may be a bad example, but I have been dieting for the past several weeks. I gained twenty pounds when I married Rich, and I’m ready to let go of that extra weight. At first I felt very panicky when I was hungry, so hunger felt “bad.” It was nearly impossible to tolerate. But when I started losing a few pounds I started to reframe that sensation of hunger and started to think of it as a feeling that is associated with losing weight. If I’m a little hungry, I will lose weight and feel better about myself and more energetic. I will be eating within a few hours so I won’t starve. That sensation of hunger brings less panic now and more excitement that the diet is working.

It’s the same when we are working through a deep core wound. We know it’s a core feeling if it seems out of proportion to the event that triggered it, or if it just erupted by itself. Sometimes this happens to me during yoga practice – all of a sudden I start weeping. This feels “bad,” but we can reframe the experience so that it instead feels like welcoming an old abandoned part of ourself into our heart. As we allow the ancient pain to fill our experience instead of use all of our coping skills to avoid it, we release the pain and become more integrated with abandoned parts of ourselves.

So don’t worry, I’ll tell you something good. But it might not be what you think!

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