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August 2016

August 04, 2016

What Men Need Most From the Woman They Love

While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure...

June 2016

June 07, 2016

Wives, if your husband ever seems inconsiderate, assume he doesn’t want to be

Ladies, have you ever had one of those moments when you were at the boiling...

April 2016

April 11, 2016

Ladies, here’s the surprising reason why your husband cried at that Tom Hanks scene and you didn’t

A woman came up to me after a talk about gender differences and asked, “My...

March 2016

March 21, 2016

Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or...

March 02, 2016

3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About a Man’s Brain

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as...

February 2016

February 10, 2016

Women: Three phrases to never say to your husband

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for...

January 2016

January 27, 2016

Some hysterical memes about the differences between men and women

People always send me memes about the differences between men and women. Some of them...

January 19, 2016

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

October 2015

October 21, 2015

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share...

October 13, 2015

Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading...

August 2015

August 10, 2015

Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got...

May 2015

May 04, 2015

How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do...

March 2015

March 30, 2015

Don’t Freak Out Over His Need for Space

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 30, 2015

Don’t freak out when your man handles an argument….like a man

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

February 2015

February 03, 2015

Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

It is one thing for your future husband to know that you have an inquisitive...

December 2014

December 01, 2014

My Eyes are Up Here: Can I Be Seen as Pretty AND Professional?

Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious...

November 2014

November 24, 2014

When Sleeping Handsome ruins a date night

Dear Shaunti: I’m so angry with my husband that I could spit. Every now and...

November 17, 2014

My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

Dear Shaunti, My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to...

August 2014

August 04, 2014

Give Him Reason to Gawk at You So He Doesn’t Gawk at Google

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared...

July 2014

July 21, 2014

Be Grateful For His Creativity Rather Than Grumpy About His Clutter

Dear Shaunti, My husband seems to miss the point of giving me “down time.” When...

June 2014

June 09, 2014

My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it...

May 2014

May 26, 2014

Let Your Husband Unwind Before You Unload

Dear Shaunti, I am SO DONE with my husband’s grumpiness when he gets home from...

April 2014

April 21, 2014

Don’t Force Your Sex Life into Hibernation Mode By Choosing Sleep Over Sex

Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want...

April 14, 2014

Why Your Male Co-Worker May Be Annoyed at You

Dear Shaunti, I just got out of a big meeting where one of my male...

April 03, 2014

Beyond the Candlelight: Finding Romance In Unusual Places

Dear Shaunti, I wish my husband were more romantic. I love spending time with him—we...

March 2014

March 31, 2014

Gain Respect By Being Direct

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share...

March 27, 2014

The Process of Processing: Give Your Man Some Space

Dear Shaunti, I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into...

March 24, 2014

Lust at First Glance? The Difference in Seeing vs. Gawking

Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking...

March 17, 2014

Let’s Get Physical: Health Body, Healthy Marriage

Dear Shaunti, I am definitely not the size I was when I married my husband....

March 10, 2014

Independence Can Be Isolating: Find Ways to Show Your Man You Need Him

Dear Shaunti, I'm 31 and single, with a successful career, lots of friends, and an...