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June 2017

June 09, 2017

These Four Phrases Will Make You a Hero to Your Wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

June 05, 2017

How to Respect An Imperfect Husband

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about...

May 2017

May 30, 2017

Here Is the Simple Key to Kindness and Joy

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be...

May 12, 2017

3 Essential Things You Need to Know About a Man’s Brain

Here are three key facts we females usually don’t know about the male brain wiring...

May 03, 2017

Finally Kill the Never-Ending Cycle of the Grumpy Husband – Forever

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type...

April 2017

April 21, 2017

What NOT to Say to Your Man – Ever

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for...

April 18, 2017

Don’t forget this simple way to make your wife happy

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know....

March 2017

March 31, 2017

Husband acting grumpy and withdrawn? You can change that!

Ladies, does your man seem to be doing everything right outside of the house, but...

March 28, 2017

3 Powerful Life Lessons From a World War II Veteran

My husband and his whole family stood vigil by a hospice bedside last week. It...

October 2016

October 24, 2016

Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious

Recently, someone asked what I think about the “Married Sex During the Week” video posted...

August 2016

August 18, 2016

The One Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I...

August 04, 2016

What Men Need Most From the Woman They Love

While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure...

June 2016

June 27, 2016

Want a Great Marriage? Ask yourself this sneakily important question!

Whether you want to improve a difficult marriage or celebrate a great one, I’ve seen...

June 08, 2016

3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and...

April 2016

April 15, 2016

Secret #9 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Don’t Tell it Like it Is

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

March 2016

March 21, 2016

Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or...

March 07, 2016

In Honor of My Mother-in-Law (1926 – 2016): Three Reasons They Had 65 Wonderful Years of Marriage

My sweet mother-in-law went to be with Jesus last night. We are grieving, but we...

February 2016

February 15, 2016

Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

I’m a pastor who works with young couples. As you know, most people live together...

February 04, 2016

Guys: 3 ways to listen well to your wife

Men, finish this sentence. Your wife is upset and says “I don’t want you to...

January 2016

January 19, 2016

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

December 2015

December 07, 2015

For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in 12 years of researching the...

December 02, 2015

Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? 4 actions that matter

1. Show him you’re someone he can talk to about it. Regardless of where your man...

December 02, 2015

Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? 4 actions that matter

1. Show him you’re someone he can talk to about it. Regardless of where your man...

November 2015

November 25, 2015

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. "Just don’t think about it.” Women have no idea what that means. If she’s...

November 17, 2015

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to...

November 12, 2015

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put...

November 02, 2015

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 2015

October 29, 2015

Guys wonder: do compliments really matter? Three things your wife is secretly thinking:

“Am I beautiful?” You may think your wife is beautiful, adorable, sexy, and you love to...

October 21, 2015

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share...

August 2015

August 17, 2015

I’m Unhealthy and My Wife is Unhappy

Dear Shaunti, Things haven’t been great between me and my wife the past few months....