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February 2018

February 05, 2018

3 Ways Porn Hurts the Heart of Your Wife

In more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things...

January 2018

January 25, 2018

3 Reasons Your Wife Won’t Tell You Exactly What She Wants

Men, here’s the bottom line: practice studying your wife. Don’t roll your eyes whenever you...

January 19, 2018

Three Things to Never Say to Your Husband

Ladies, these three toxic phrases should be at the top of the list for "What...

January 18, 2018

When Your Man Gets Upset About Money

Most likely, hiding beneath the money behavior that is driving you nuts is a man...

January 10, 2018

When Your Husband Wants Sex…Again

Sex is not just a physical need — it’s also about emotions. Here are three...

January 08, 2018

Best of 2017: Relationships, Marriage, and the Topic Everyone Asks About

As one final look back at 2017 (for those of us who can't believe it's...

December 2017

December 13, 2017

3 Things to Do When You’re Disappointed By Your Spouse

When you're disappointed with your spouse (no matter what the reason), try practicing these three...

December 11, 2017

What Men Think About #MeToo: The Top 6 Reactions

Sexual harassment has always been there, in the shadowy corners of Hollywood and corporate America....

December 08, 2017

Second marriages: 3 things you need to know

I discovered that the sources for the “70% percent of second marriages end in divorce”...

November 2017

November 14, 2017

5 Steps to Make Your Marriage Explode (in a Good Way!)

Assume the best of your spouse’s intentions toward you: in other words, that your spouse...

November 08, 2017

Love and Laughter: How Humor Can Ease Relationship Tension

Learn what is guaranteed to elicit a smile from your partner. When tensions run high,...

November 06, 2017

Transform Your Relationship With This One Simple Rule

In our research with men, it was clear that one of a man’s most painful...

November 02, 2017

Providing For a Family? It’s About More Than Money

As women’s earning power has changed over the last fifty years, so have marriage dynamics...

October 2017

October 23, 2017

Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity

There’s a couple I know who just seems to have their act together. They’re a...

October 13, 2017

3 Surprising Reasons to Initiate Sex With Your Man

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and...

October 06, 2017

How Healthy He Is Matters to Her

I don’t think there are many who would be surprised to hear that in my...

October 04, 2017

Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

September 2017

September 18, 2017

How to Respect Your Husband When You Really Don’t Trust Him

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for...

September 06, 2017

Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Imagine a springtime shower without the gentle sound of rain. Or a baseball game without...

August 2017

August 30, 2017

Make Sure Your Man Is One of the 25%

Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing...

August 28, 2017

The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day

As a busy analyst, author, and speaker my days are full so it can be...

August 24, 2017

Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule

Ladies, imagine that as part of your dream job or volunteer work, you are offered...

August 23, 2017

Guys, She Cares About This One Thing More Than Money

Many guys that I know often feel like they are caught between a rock and...

August 18, 2017

Guys, This Is What Women Really Want

Guys, women can seem SO complicated. How can you know what’s really in her mind?...

August 14, 2017

How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Men, have you ever been surprised when you’ve tried to surprise your wife? I heard just...

July 2017

July 26, 2017

4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Ladies, if you could improve your relationship with your man by applying a few simple...

July 19, 2017

5 Reasons to Leave the Lights on for Sex

Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in my years of social research,...

June 2017

June 26, 2017

4 Things That Will Strengthen Your Long-Distance Relationship

Today's article is a guest post from my Digital Content Manager, Caroline Niziol. Caroline has...

June 22, 2017

4 Powerful Ways to Help Your Husband Feel Amazing

Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture?...

June 19, 2017

The Secret to Being a Wife He Adores

In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked,...

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