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February 2022

February 15, 2022

How To Inspire More Romance From Your Man

Ladies, was your Valentine’s Day a little… disappointing? You might be surprised to learn that...

June 2021

June 01, 2021

Cozy Little Fires Everywhere: Small Ways to Warm Up Your Marriage

Here's how to build that all-important connection--a cozy little fire--with your spouse. Article by Ted...

March 2021

March 30, 2021

Make Your Marriage Happier By Keeping Score And Giving Back

Have you ever found yourself keeping a list in your head of the wrongs (big...

February 2021

February 16, 2021

The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 3: “If My Spouse Loved Me, They Would WANT To Do What Warms My Heart!”

Would it surprise you to know that there are multiple ways most of us have...

February 11, 2021

Here’s How To Be Romantic All Year, Not Just On Valentine’s Day

I’m curious. What is your attitude each year when Valentine’s Day rolls around? Happy anticipation...

January 2021

January 19, 2021

Commit to Your Marriage By Going “All-In”

When too much independence is carried over into marriage, it can create walls between spouses.

October 2020

October 22, 2020

A House Divided? Handling Hot Political Discussions Without Getting Burned

I recently shared my outlook on the upcoming presidential election, our national discord, the possibility...

July 2020

July 01, 2020

Happy Independence Day? Surprising ways to more intimacy (Part 1 of The Unity Series)

In a few days, Americans will celebrate the Fourth of July. With fireworks, flags, and...

January 2020

January 21, 2020

Lessons From A Lost Love Note

My friend was browsing at a Goodwill outside Atlanta, when she spotted a book (Really...

October 2019

October 17, 2019

Does Your Wife Think Your Marriage Has Lost its Spark? Here’s How to Respond

After getting their youngest child settled in at college for her freshman year, Phil began...

June 2019

June 12, 2019

How Your Husband Feels When You’re Too Tired For Sex

As Leslie settled into bed, more than ready for a good night’s sleep, Todd walked...

February 2019

February 14, 2019

Does Your Wife Worry How You’ll React When She Shares?

I know what it’s like to take a daughter to college, and it’s not easy....

November 2018

November 30, 2018

After You’re Married, Keep Dating Your Wife (It is Much Easier Than You Think)

Guys, in Part 1 we revealed that your wife doesn’t feel forever loved and happy...

August 2018

August 20, 2018

The Best Way to Handle Conflict? Be Best Friends with Your Spouse

Matt and Jessie never used to fight, but there have been a lot of arguments,...

May 2018

May 25, 2018

Laurel, Yanny, and The One Secret That Can Solve Divisions and Save Any Relationship

So unless you were on Everest with no Wi-Fi access last week, you heard either...

March 2018

March 12, 2018

4 Ways to Help Your Husband Up His Romantic Game

My friend Michelle once told me about a Valentine’s Day a couple years ago when...

February 2018

February 14, 2018

3 Things I Love Most About My Readers

Normally around Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to tell your special someone why you love...

February 09, 2018

2 Steps You Must Take to Improve Your Struggling Marriage

Lynn and her husband, Dan, have been married for 20 years and their youngest son...

November 2017

November 14, 2017

5 Steps to Make Your Marriage Explode (in a Good Way!)

Assume the best of your spouse’s intentions toward you: in other words, that your spouse...

November 08, 2017

Love and Laughter: How Humor Can Ease Relationship Tension

Learn what is guaranteed to elicit a smile from your partner. When tensions run high,...

October 2017

October 04, 2017

Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

August 2017

August 30, 2017

Make Sure Your Man Is One of the 25%

Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing...

August 25, 2016

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but...

November 2015

November 12, 2015

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put...

August 2015

August 17, 2015

I’m Unhealthy and My Wife is Unhappy

Dear Shaunti, Things haven’t been great between me and my wife the past few months....

May 2015

May 04, 2015

How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do...

January 2015

January 12, 2015

Gain Lots of Mileage with Little Gestures

Dear Shaunti: I’m married to a wonderful woman whom I dearly love. The problem is,...

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