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2023-12-11T17:24:30-04:00

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Christmas Money Tension? Strengthen Your Marriage by Pooling

Last updated on: December 11, 2023 at 5:24 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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If we keep separate accounts we simply don’t feel as accountable to our partner. We are more likely to buy something we want, when we want it. (It doesn’t really matter if I buy the more expensive Christmas present, right?) By contrast, joining all accounts means we have to discuss and negotiate spending with one another ─ which helps us clarify wants versus needs, when to buy discretionary things, and holds us accountable. Read more

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2023-12-04T15:38:44-04:00

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What Adult Children Need – And Don’t Need – From Their Parents

Last updated on: December 4, 2023 at 3:38 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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In my series for Empty Nest parents this fall (see part 1, part 2 and part 3), we explored how to respect adult kids’ boundaries and switch our mindset from counselor to coach. But the essential next-step question is: what do they most want us to know? Read more

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2023-11-27T20:10:49-04:00

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Solutions for Sarcasm? Yeah, Right. (Nix the Negativity Series, Part 3)

Last updated on: November 27, 2023 at 8:10 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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At its best, sarcasm and joking around can create levity in hard situations. We all need to relieve the pressure valve on life sometimes! If everyone in the room knows that we have complete, unconditional respect and care for the person we are being sarcastic with, then it is just funny. But what if anyone in the room has doubts about that? We discovered that people are often laughing on the outside … and wondering on the inside if you really mean the sarcastic dig and if you really are that cynical, or mean, or “superior.” Read more

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2023-11-20T23:13:11-04:00

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From Grumbling to Grateful! (Nix the Negativity Series, Part 2)

Last updated on: November 20, 2023 at 11:13 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Even though most of us want to think we’re glass-half-full types, we all grumble and complain more than we know. As one of the seven patterns of negativity and unkindness found in the research for my book The Kindness Challenge, grumbling and complaining are close cousins of the relationship-killer of criticism. The good news is, grumbling has an antidote! And Thanksgiving week seems like a good time to explore it. Read more

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2023-11-13T17:26:31-04:00

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Always Suspicious of Your Spouse (or Others)? Here’s What To Do! (Nix the Negativity, Part 1)

Last updated on: November 13, 2023 at 5:26 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Suspicion. We can descend into that spiral with a spouse, friend, or colleague without ever recognizing it. As one of the seven patterns of negativity and unkindness identified in the research for my book The Kindness Challenge, we need to confront four truths about suspicion so it doesn’t derail our relationships. Read more

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2023-11-06T20:04:15-04:00

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7 Date Night Do’s and Don’ts (Part 2)

Last updated on: November 6, 2023 at 8:04 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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This is Part 2 of a two-part series on date night ideas that can help keep your marriage connected, fun, and functioning! See Part 1 for the first three do’s and don’ts. You want to breathe new life into your marriage, and you know a date night is a great way to do that. But what do you do to make that happen? And perhaps just as important, what do you not do to undermine your efforts? In Part 1,... Read more

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2023-10-28T21:05:08-04:00

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7 Date Night Do’s and Don’ts (Part 1)

Last updated on: October 28, 2023 at 9:05 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Date night. Have two words ever caused more expectation and pressure for couples? (Well, maybe “sex life,” but we’ll get to that in next week’s part 2!) Let’s take the pressure off. There is a way to turn date nights into what they are supposed to be: a great time to relax, step away from the routine, and reconnect as a couple. In this two-part series, we’ll show you research-based ways to connect in ways that make sense for you. It is all about knowing how to do that – and how not to. Read more

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2023-10-23T13:07:40-04:00

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Broken Trust in a Relationship? Here’s What To Do.

Last updated on: October 23, 2023 at 1:07 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Too often when trust has been broken, the person who broke the trust wants to simply apologize and move on. We all wish it were that easy, but it’s not. Imagine that trust is the water in a bathtub. When trust is broken, the water is drained out of the bathtub. You can’t just turn on the faucet with an apology and voila … the trust fills the tub back up. Instead, trust is rebuilt one trust-building action, one trust-building conversation at a time. This process is like filling the bathtub up one tablespoon at a time. Read more

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2023-10-16T16:53:51-04:00

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7 Steps to Keep Defensiveness from Ruining Our Relationships (Part 2)

Last updated on: October 16, 2023 at 4:53 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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This is Part 2 of a two-part series on how to reduce defensiveness and have better mental health as well as more peace and productivity in your personal and professional relationships. As we explained last time, defensiveness is dangerous in marriage and relationships (friends, family, workplace, and so on). How do we interrupt the cycle and reset our approach? We continue with the last four action steps here. IMPORTANT: BEFORE you read Part 2, see Part 1, which offers crucial elements about how to reset our body’s and brain’s autonomic response when defensiveness occurs. Then, tackle the four action items below. Read more

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2023-10-09T21:40:10-04:00

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7 Steps to Keep Defensiveness from Ruining Our Relationships (Part 1)

Last updated on: October 9, 2023 at 9:40 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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One woman told me that in reading The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages she had been challenged to be as kind to her spouse in private as she was in public (which, according to my research, 75% of highly happy couples are). She thanked me for helping her marriage in such a practical way. I thought that was the extent of our interaction until she moved a half a step closer. Read more

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