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Family, Parenting and Religion

2015-10-27T15:14:49-04:00

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Diamond Disappointment: If the ring is cheap, does it mean his feelings are too?

Last updated on: October 27, 2015 at 3:14 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

The day my boyfriend asked me to marry him was one of the happiest days of my life. He went all out: perfect location, meaningful words, and down on one knee with a lovely ring. At the time, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. But now, just a few months before the wedding, my ring has become a source of stress. I’d honestly like something bigger, with a bit more style. My fiancé says we don’t have that kind of money, but he doesn’t seem to have a problem buying fancy accessories for his car. I’m worried that his lack of “splurging” on my ring means that he just doesn’t prioritize what matters to me – which means he doesn’t prioritize me. What do I do with that? I’m willing to forego eating out or whatever we need to do to upgrade my ring, but he’s not budging on the budget. Read more

2019-09-30T18:10:48-04:00

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Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:10 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.” We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but that’s not most of what is going on. When his wife responds to him... Read more

2019-09-30T18:00:02-04:00

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When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:00 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over. My husband and I were on the same page politically until a few months ago, but are now very divided. I literally can’t skim past a cable news channel without my husband trying to force me into a discussion about a political issue. He’s trying to “convert” me to his viewpoints, I won’t budge, and it’s driving him crazy. We never used to argue but now we seem to... Read more

2015-10-12T08:35:26-04:00

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Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

Last updated on: October 12, 2015 at 8:35 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading Through a Man’s Eyes. I thought I’d be feeling better about my husband working so hard to avert his eyes when he sees another attractive woman, but I’m still struggling big-time. When I catch my husband looking sideways, I instantly spiral down. Worry and sadness overtake me and ruin our date night. The beach used to be my favorite place, but now it’s impossible to... Read more

2019-09-30T17:57:07-04:00

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Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 5:57 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately. We both work a lot and have two children busy with extracurricular activities, so we spend a good bit of time apart. I tend to be a control freak and, as my husband says, I freak out if something doesn’t go the way I think it should go. My husband is outgoing, can talk to anyone, and everyone... Read more

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2019-09-30T17:52:59-04:00

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Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 5:52 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care for my husband, but for the most part, I avoid him. I find him difficult to be around. I really don’t enjoy his company. I have felt hurt, disrespected and uncared for so many times that I have up some serious walls that I don’t know how to tear down. I have prayed for God to help me change, but I don’t see much progress.... Read more

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2015-09-14T14:18:03-04:00

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My Kids Are Freaked Out About the Shemitah

Last updated on: September 14, 2015 at 2:18 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, Recently my husband and I read Jonathan Cahn’s book The Harbinger, so we’re attuned to the signals of a “shaking” coming in our country. Financial markets are tanking as we near the Shemitah, just as Cahn warned might happen. [Editorial note: the current 7-year Shemitah cycle, based on the ancient Hebrew calendar, ended Sunday September 13, 2015. The Dow Jones average has dropped more than 10% since its peak 4 months ago.] We’re worried about another big terrorist attack, or God using other means to judge the nation. We discovered quite a few other Christian friends were looking at this, too, so we’ve been talking about this a lot. But I was getting ready to go on a business trip this week and my 10 and 14-year-old daughters got hysterical and asked me not to get on the plane “in case it blows up.” I didn’t realize they had been paying so much attention and absorbing everything we were talking about. How can I calm their fears and yet not downplay that we are worried that something big might happen? Read more

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2019-09-24T17:21:08-04:00

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Play It Subtle When Talking With Teens

Last updated on: September 24, 2019 at 5:21 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I was driving my 16-year-old daughter home from volleyball practice recently when she brought up a funny comment made by one of the guys she knows at school. Then she said, “Anna said he told her he was going to ask me to Homecoming.” I was thrilled she was sharing something like that, since she’s been pretty tight-lipped the last year. And also thrilled for her, since she’s never been asked to a school dance before, and I know it would mean a lot to her. So I smiled at her and said “Wow, that is fantastic, honey!” I promise that’s all I said. But you would have thought I had shot off fireworks or something, because my daughter got this horrified look on her face and said, “I knew you’d freak out if I told you. That’s why I don’t tell you anything!” But I did not overreact, and I’m a little irritated that she says this is why she can’t talk to me. What do I do? Read more

2019-09-30T17:45:32-04:00

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Actions Don’t Always Speak Louder than Words: How Should You Affirm Your Wife?

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 5:45 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know. (I’m sure she’d tell you otherwise, but it’s true.) But I just don’t talk a lot, and it is hard for me to remember to say things like “You look pretty” out loud. Last week, she had an epic melt-down while I was watching TV. She snatched the remote out of my hand, and told me I never compliment her, don’t appreciate her and... Read more

2015-08-25T13:29:52-04:00

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Why is it that MEN always seem to be the ones who look at porn and cheat?

Last updated on: August 25, 2015 at 1:29 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Why is it always men who look at porn, hide things, and cheat? I’m a single woman, and I can’t help but notice that in the news last week, the one thing Josh Duggar and most of the Ashley Madison cheaters have in common is that they are all men. Supposedly, even the few women on the hacked Ashley Madison site were fake profiles, just to reel in all those men out there who want to cheat. It is crazy. It makes me think women are just inherently more trustworthy. Part of me still wants to meet someone, but how can I ever trust any guy again? Read more

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