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Family, Parenting and Religion

2017-12-04T08:51:22-04:00

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3 things every boy needs from his mom

Last updated on: December 4, 2017 at 8:51 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down. Whether your son is five or fifteen, several phrases are a big, big deal. Here are three: 1. “I’m so proud of you.” All males are powerfully moved by hearing these words, but perhaps none more so than the young,... Read more

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2017-11-30T10:35:31-04:00

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For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

Last updated on: November 30, 2017 at 10:35 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in 12 years of researching the things our husbands wish we knew but don’t know how to say, I heard the heart behind this wish – and saw five surprising reasons to take the risk. When he knows you want him, it increases intimacy. A husband is powerfully impacted by knowing his wife desires him. And few things signal “desire” more than when he sees his wife engaged in their time together.... Read more

2015-12-02T14:57:38-04:00

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Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? 4 actions that matter

Last updated on: December 2, 2015 at 2:57 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

1. Show him you’re someone he can talk to about it. Regardless of where your man lands on the visual temptation spectrum, a calm conversation is the starting point. But many men are hesitant to talk, since they are convinced their wives will never understand – or, worse, will be hurt. So no matter what you’re hearing: be calm. If you don’t think he’s got a major issue, then just asking what life is like today, and showing him you want... Read more

2017-12-05T10:36:54-04:00

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Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? 4 actions that matter

Last updated on: December 5, 2017 at 10:36 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

2019-09-30T18:12:42-04:00

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Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:12 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

1. “Just don’t think about it.” Women have no idea what that means. If she’s worried that her best friend suddenly isn’t talking to her, she has no way to not think about it. As men, you have this amazing ability to close out an unwelcome thought – almost like closing out a window on your computer desktop. But as we discovered in our For Men Only research, nearly nine in ten women can’t just ignore something that is bothering... Read more

2017-12-19T14:13:14-04:00

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How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Last updated on: December 19, 2017 at 2:13 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to let me see her in all her glory? We have a decent sex life, we don’t have any real marriage problems, and I’m careful to not check out other women. But she still seems to feel like how she looks is not “enough” somehow. She worries about gaining weight since the kids arrived, her “small boobs,” or the fact that she doesn’t get to the... Read more

2022-11-01T17:05:02-04:00

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Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

Last updated on: November 1, 2022 at 5:05 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put it out of your head and focus on whatever you’re doing that day. But for most women… not so much. In my research for For Men Only, one woman explained it this way: “A lot of desperate feelings surface when I feel like my husband is displeased with me. I know it sounds old-fashioned, and I’m a pretty independent person, but it still really affects... Read more

2016-01-07T14:47:08-04:00

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My ADD son is checking out in school

Last updated on: January 7, 2016 at 2:47 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, My 6th-grade son is discouraged in school and I’m worried he’s starting to check out. He tries hard, but he has some learning issues (like ADD) that create real academic challenges. Where his sisters get A’s with little effort, he can work for hours and get B’s and C’s on his tests. And the teachers are great, but they don’t seem to know how to handle his ADD. He is constantly getting detentions for disrupting class because... Read more

2015-11-02T08:32:43-04:00

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Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Last updated on: November 2, 2015 at 8:32 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best of your spouse’s intentions. But all that does is give your spouse license to hurt you again and again without consequences. Who cares what their intentions are, if the result is pain? My husband says things that are harsh to me and the kids, and then tells me “I never wanted to hurt your feelings.” Well, who cares that you didn’t want to! You did.... Read more

surprising secrets of highly happy marriages

2015-10-29T15:47:19-04:00

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Guys wonder: do compliments really matter? Three things your wife is secretly thinking:

Last updated on: October 29, 2015 at 3:47 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

“Am I beautiful?” You may think your wife is beautiful, adorable, sexy, and you love to look at her. And yet…. she probably sees all her flaws instead. She has deep doubts about whether she is beautiful at all. Little girls will spin in a pretty dress, asking “Daddy, am I pretty?” And guys, your confident, grown-up wife is still that little girl inside. “Am I beautiful… to him?” Today, your confident, grown-up wife is still looking to the most important man... Read more

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