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Family, Parenting and Religion

2016-03-21T11:56:03-04:00

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Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Last updated on: March 21, 2016 at 11:56 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he doesn’t need help. Even when we might insist otherwise. My research with men for For Women Only revealed four surprising reasons for the stubborn independence: 1. Needing help means, by definition, that he’s unable to do it himself. We women... Read more

2016-03-16T12:07:52-04:00

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POLL and RESULTS: What do you think about Kardashian’s nude selfie?

Last updated on: March 16, 2016 at 12:07 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it comes to women's bodies. Then, I asked you what YOU thought. Read more

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2016-03-16T09:01:52-04:00

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A sincere plea from someone who doesn’t want to see Kardashian’s nude selfie but isn’t a “slut shamer”

Last updated on: March 16, 2016 at 9:01 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

In today's culture, you are either a "slut shamer" or "celebrating a woman's body" through nude selfies. Isn't there middle ground? Read more

2016-03-15T07:51:03-04:00

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3 Lies You Can’t Let Your Son Believe About Himself

Last updated on: March 15, 2016 at 7:51 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

As both a social researcher who has interviewed and surveyed thousands of boys and a mom of a son, I’ve seen three common – and very harmful –things boys tend to believe about themselves. Mom and Dad, keep an eye out, so you can knock down this nonsense whenever it rears its ugly head! 1. “I’m stupid.” They may not say it out loud, but this thought is very common among boys. There’s a sneaky reason that boys are... Read more

2016-03-07T13:44:47-04:00

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In Honor of My Mother-in-Law (1926 – 2016): Three Reasons They Had 65 Wonderful Years of Marriage

Last updated on: March 7, 2016 at 1:44 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

My sweet mother-in-law went to be with Jesus last night. We are grieving, but we are also so grateful for how Roberta Feldhahn graced this earth for 90 years. We are also praying for Jeff’s sweet dad, who is so missing his bride of 65 years. In honor of Jeff’s mom and dad, and in their own words, here are three key reasons for their long and joyful marriage. These are drawn from an interview I did with them a... Read more

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2016-03-04T09:44:49-04:00

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Secret #5 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Boss Your Feelings

Last updated on: March 4, 2016 at 9:44 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #5 to a highly happy marriage, author Shaunti Feldhahn explains how happy couples talk themselves out of being mad – they actually change their feelings by choosing to stop a train of thought that could cause a conflict to spiral unnecessarily. Secret... Read more

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2017-08-02T09:17:36-04:00

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3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About a Man’s Brain

Last updated on: August 2, 2017 at 9:17 am By Dale McGowan

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve been seeing inside her head the whole movie, but instantly the camera zooms out of her brain and into his…. where his mental control room is suddenly in chaos. The warning lights flash “GIRL! GIRL! GIRL!” and everything in his mind seizes up or turns somersaults. My 12-year-old son saw... Read more

2016-02-25T06:32:24-04:00

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Why not take the test drive? – Part 2 (More on cohabitation, getting engaged, and getting committed)

Last updated on: February 25, 2016 at 6:32 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Last week, I posted an article, “Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation,” on the unseen dangers of cohabitation before marriage. (As a recap: research shows that couples who live together without being engaged have a greater chance of divorce if they do get married; cohabitation increases the chances of ignoring red flags and “sliding” into marriage as a default instead of starting from a firm commitment.) Wow, did I get a lot of – um –“feedback” after that... Read more

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2016-02-15T10:51:25-04:00

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Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

Last updated on: February 15, 2016 at 10:51 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

I’m a pastor who works with young couples. As you know, most people live together before they get married and I can’t figure out how to talk to them about it. I know from scripture that it’s a bad idea, but couples always ask “But why?” To them, it just seems logical to try out a live-in relationship before committing to it for life. The classic argument is, “If you wouldn’t buy a car without test-driving it, why on earth would you not test-drive a marriage – which is far more important?” I know from experience with counseling many couples that it is a bad idea, but I need more than just my experience. I’m a bit of a policy wonk, but I simply don’t have time to sift through the information out there to figure out what’s real and helpful. Is there any solid research on this? Read more

2018-02-02T08:40:59-04:00

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Secret #4 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Keep Score

Last updated on: February 2, 2018 at 8:40 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Most of us just naturally remember the ‘wrongs’ against us, but highly happy couples intentionally focus more on the ‘rights’ our spouse demonstrates toward us. Secret #4 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Keep Score from Shaunti Feldhahn on Vimeo. Wish Shaunti could speak at... Read more

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