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Family, Parenting and Religion

2016-10-03T09:19:02-04:00

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Four things I would tell the woman who called me a “dumb broad”

Last updated on: October 3, 2016 at 9:19 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear sister, You say in your angry Amazon review of For Women Only and For Men Only, that a therapist recommended the books to help your failing marriage. Yet the For Women Only research has, in your view, made things worse by pointing out why your husband isn’t happy. (And presumably, why you aren’t, either.) You called me a “dumb broad” and threw the books in the trash. Four things I want you to know: 1. I’m sorry... Read more

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2017-11-07T14:08:41-04:00

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The two most dangerous assumptions women make about relationships

Last updated on: November 7, 2017 at 2:08 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

After I finished speaking at a recent women’s event, a beautiful woman who I will call Sierra came up to ask me a question. “How can I get my husband to do anything to improve our relationship? He has completely... Read more

2016-09-27T09:12:19-04:00

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Don’t believe the myth — good news about marriage is still out there!

Last updated on: September 27, 2016 at 9:12 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Hi everyone – I thought you’d want to see this piece from the Washington Post, which is an encouraging sign that more people are busting the 50% divorce rate myth, and that the positive news continues to get out there. I must admit that for a while I felt like my Good News About Marriage book was a lonely voice crying in the wilderness! But thankfully many others have also been working through this area of research and seeing that amidst all the... Read more

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2016-09-23T09:11:53-04:00

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Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Last updated on: September 23, 2016 at 9:11 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he doesn’t need help. Even when we might insist otherwise. My research with men for For Women Only revealed four surprising reasons for the stubborn independence: 1. Needing help means, by definition, that he’s unable to do it himself. We women... Read more

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2016-09-01T10:24:07-04:00

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Let’s Stop Dissing Dads (And the Daddy Commercial That Made Me Cry)

Last updated on: September 1, 2016 at 10:24 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

OK, it’s my turn to ask a question: why do we think it is okay to publicly ridicule men as lazy, uncaring so-and-so’s who just don’t work as hard as we noble, all-giving, all-caring women? A friend showed me this e-card recently, and it made me steaming mad. For those who can’t see the image, it is a picture of an exhausted woman, with her hand over her eyes, and the caption, “You know that feeling of being able to... Read more

2019-09-30T18:20:15-04:00

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Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:20 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but efficiently kill any marriage: Never, ever, ever think your spouse “shouldn’t” be hurt by something that wouldn’t hurt you. The same trap can and often does ensnare men. For both men and women, we often completely forget (or brush off altogether) the fact that we are very different, and thus have very different insecurities. Different doubts, worries, needs and desires. Which means: things that wouldn’t... Read more

2019-09-30T18:17:34-04:00

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The One Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:17 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase. Most recently last weekend, after the worship services at a mega church in the Midwest. The pastor had interviewed me as the sermon on Restoring Hope for Marriage, and asked what my research shows are the most crucial marital actions to do – and to avoid. Afterward, several people told us they wished they hadn’t... Read more

2019-09-30T18:14:36-04:00

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What Men Need Most From the Woman They Love

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 6:14 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure us of his love, men are not affected by hearing us say, “Honey, I respect you” but they do love to hear things like “I’m so proud of you” and “I trust you.” But signaling respect to our man goes far beyond those few words. In my research, I found that there are five demonstrative ways we can express our respect for the man we... Read more

2019-09-25T14:33:01-04:00

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Why I’m Grateful for My Daughter’s First Car Accident

Last updated on: September 25, 2019 at 2:33 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

This might sound odd, but I’m really, really grateful for my 16-year-old daughter’s car accident yesterday. Yes, you read that right. She got her license a few months ago, and is a careful, conscientious driver. She’s uncomfortable going five miles per hour over the speed limit. She also knows we are sacrificing to get her an old car to drive to and from school and sports, regularly says thank you for it, and got a summer job to help pay... Read more

2016-07-13T09:05:36-04:00

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Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Last updated on: July 13, 2016 at 9:05 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Several people have passed along this hilarious GIF – but have also wondered why it strikes such a chord to see a little girl’s ugly tantrum and the caption “I need a man who loves me even when I act like this.” In fact, in a recent column, I explained to men (based on my For Men Only research) why this is a subconscious but very real hope of many women. And several men have told me they are understandably... Read more

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