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June 2018

June 05, 2018

3 Things NOT To Say When Your Wife Is Worried

Men, have you ever found yourself wanting to roll your eyes and mutter under your...

May 2018

May 03, 2018

Men: Here’s the Phrase that Will Make Your Wife Amazingly Happy

At a recent marriage conference, a man sidled up to me and began talking while...

April 2018

April 30, 2018

One Great Antidote When You’re Feeling Stressed

First of all—I’ve got great news! My newest book, Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional For...

April 23, 2018

That Moment When You Realize You Match Your New Book Cover

I am excited to announce that my new devo Find Rest is BACK IN STOCK! We...

April 06, 2018

4 Phrases That Make You Your Wife’s Hero

There’s a reason why superhero movies are so popular, right? What’s not to love about...

April 04, 2018

2 Mistakes We Make That Create Loneliness

There’s a certain amount of pride that goes along with doing things on your own,...

March 2018

March 26, 2018

A Tip for Finding Rest No Matter Where You Are

We are SO EXCITED that the launch date for Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for...

March 15, 2018

Raise Your Hand If You’re Exhausted and Need Rest

Our society is tired. Dog tired. And women, specifically, seem to be the most tired...

February 2018

February 28, 2018

3 Reasons Why Your Wife Won’t Just Tell You What She Wants

So men, here’s the key that will unlock the door to your wife’s confidence and...

January 2018

January 08, 2018

Best of 2017: Relationships, Marriage, and the Topic Everyone Asks About

As one final look back at 2017 (for those of us who can't believe it's...

October 2017

October 04, 2017

Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

September 2017

September 13, 2017

How to Stop Male Co-Workers’ Resentment … When You Work Flex-Time

Dear Shaunti,  I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This...

September 01, 2017

The Foreign Culture of a Man’s Mind and How to Navigate It 

Sometimes working with men can be very much like working in an unknown culture.

August 2017

August 23, 2017

Guys, She Cares About This One Thing More Than Money

Many guys that I know often feel like they are caught between a rock and...

August 14, 2017

How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Men, have you ever been surprised when you’ve tried to surprise your wife? I heard just...

July 2017

July 12, 2017

3 Simple Compliments That Will Please Your Wife

Husbands, do you want to know what goes on inside your wife’s head? And do...

June 2017

June 14, 2017

What You Need to Do Before You Have Sex With Your Wife

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

April 2017

April 18, 2017

Don’t forget this simple way to make your wife happy

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know....

October 2016

October 11, 2016

Husbands, Get in the Habit of Telling Your Wife This

Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands,...

August 2016

August 25, 2016

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but...

July 2016

July 13, 2016

Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Several people have passed along this hilarious GIF – but have also wondered why it...

July 07, 2016

3 Reasons Your Wife Plays Games Instead of Telling You What She Wants

  Not long ago, someone we know got engaged via a multi-stage, elaborate proposal that...

April 2016

April 26, 2016

Men: This one little movie moment touches your wife’s heart – and shows you how you can, too

There’s a very short scene in the 2015 live-action Cinderella movie that secretly touches the...

March 2016

March 31, 2016

Want to Make your Wife Insanely Happy? Try this One Phrase

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled...

March 31, 2016

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase.

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled...

March 16, 2016

A sincere plea from someone who doesn’t want to see Kardashian’s nude selfie but isn’t a “slut shamer”

In today's culture, you are either a "slut shamer" or "celebrating a woman's body" through...

January 2016

January 27, 2016

Some hysterical memes about the differences between men and women

People always send me memes about the differences between men and women.  Some of them...

January 19, 2016

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife...

November 2015

November 25, 2015

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. "Just don’t think about it.”  Women have no idea what that means.  If she’s...

November 17, 2015

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to...

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