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November 2015

November 25, 2015

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. "Just don’t think about it.” Women have no idea what that means. If she’s...

November 17, 2015

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to...

November 12, 2015

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put...

November 02, 2015

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 2015

October 27, 2015

Diamond Disappointment: If the ring is cheap, does it mean his feelings are too?

The day my boyfriend asked me to marry him was one of the happiest days...

October 21, 2015

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share...

October 19, 2015

When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over. My husband and I...

October 13, 2015

Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading...

October 07, 2015

Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him,...

September 2015

September 22, 2015

Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care...

August 2015

August 31, 2015

Actions Don’t Always Speak Louder than Words: How Should You Affirm Your Wife?

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I...

August 17, 2015

I’m Unhealthy and My Wife is Unhappy

Dear Shaunti, Things haven’t been great between me and my wife the past few months....

August 10, 2015

Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got...

August 03, 2015

Does being “all-in” mean not having boundaries?

Dear Shaunti, I just finished your book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, and...

July 2015

July 20, 2015

My Lady Is A Loose Cannon

Dear Shaunti, I used to think I was crazy, but these days I feel like...

July 13, 2015

Spill Out Your Secrets To Fill Up Your Marriage

Dear Shaunti, Just before I got married, my grandmother presented me with a check –...

July 06, 2015

Did Tiger Woods and Lindsey Vonn REALLY break up because of “time?”

View image | gettyimages.com Dear Shaunti, My wife and I got into a “discussion” the...

June 2015

June 29, 2015

I trusted him and he disappointed me

Dear Shaunti, You and a lot of others talk about how much men need to...

June 22, 2015

Complaining kills, but discussion heals

Dear Shaunti, I know you’re a researcher, but I think most marriage researchers are off...

June 10, 2015

Should I read my wife’s texts?

Dear Shaunti, My wife is the best person I know; she’s funny, warm, affectionate, and...

June 01, 2015

Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I...

May 2015

May 11, 2015

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s...

May 04, 2015

How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do...

April 2015

April 20, 2015

2 is better than 1: Facing Conflict Together

Dear Shaunti, I work a lot of hours, and when I’m at home, I don’t...

March 2015

March 30, 2015

Don’t Freak Out Over His Need for Space

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 30, 2015

Don’t freak out when your man handles an argument….like a man

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared...

March 23, 2015

Negative wife? Here’s how to stop the cycle!

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I are making a concerted effort to improve our marriage....

March 16, 2015

Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In...

February 2015

February 23, 2015

Face Conflict Head On Even When You Want to Peace-Out

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I never used to fight, but there have been a...

February 16, 2015

What Women Want … In a War of Words

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a huge fight with my wife. I...