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September 2016

September 29, 2016

The two most dangerous assumptions women make about relationships

After I finished speaking at a recent women’s event, a beautiful woman who I will...

September 27, 2016

Don’t believe the myth — good news about marriage is still out there!

Hi everyone – I thought you’d want to see this piece from the Washington Post, which...

September 23, 2016

Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or...

September 01, 2016

Let’s Stop Dissing Dads (And the Daddy Commercial That Made Me Cry)

OK, it’s my turn to ask a question: why do we think it is okay...

August 2016

August 25, 2016

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but...

August 18, 2016

The One Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I...

August 04, 2016

What Men Need Most From the Woman They Love

While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure...

July 2016

July 29, 2016

Why I’m Grateful for My Daughter’s First Car Accident

This might sound odd, but I’m really, really grateful for my 16-year-old daughter’s car accident...

July 13, 2016

Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Several people have passed along this hilarious GIF – but have also wondered why it...

July 07, 2016

3 Reasons Your Wife Plays Games Instead of Telling You What She Wants

  Not long ago, someone we know got engaged via a multi-stage, elaborate proposal that...

June 2016

June 29, 2016

2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

“How was school?” (Shrug.)  “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” If this sounds familiar, join...

June 27, 2016

Want a Great Marriage? Ask yourself this sneakily important question! 

Whether you want to improve a difficult marriage or celebrate a great one, I’ve seen...

June 23, 2016

3 Reasons Your Porn Use Makes Your Wife Feel Awful

  Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think...

June 08, 2016

3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and...

June 07, 2016

Wives, if your husband ever seems inconsiderate, assume he doesn’t want to be

Ladies, have you ever had one of those moments when you were at the boiling...

May 2016

May 18, 2016

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I...

May 12, 2016

3 things to do when your kid rolls her eyes at you

Not that this ever happens.  But every now and then our kids (girls and boys)...

May 03, 2016

Two great ways to boost your son’s self-esteem

Many boys these days go through challenging times that are not of their making, and...

April 2016

April 29, 2016

Secret #11 of Highly Happy Marriages: Get in Over Their Heads

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

April 26, 2016

Men: This one little movie moment touches your wife’s heart – and shows you how you can, too

There’s a very short scene in the 2015 live-action Cinderella movie that secretly touches the...

April 22, 2016

Secret #10 of Highly Happy Marriages: Look Higher

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

April 15, 2016

Secret #9 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Don’t Tell it Like it Is

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

April 11, 2016

Ladies, here’s the surprising reason why your husband cried at that Tom Hanks scene and you didn’t

A woman came up to me after a talk about gender differences and asked, “My...

April 08, 2016

Secret #8 of Highly Happy Marriages: Hang Out

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

April 05, 2016

4 Ways To Keep Your Temper When You Want to Blow

While doing some research for my next book, I realized something important: when we are...

April 01, 2016

Secret #7 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Sign Language to Reconnect

Marriages aren't made or broken through dramatic gestures. It's the small, everyday actions and choices...

March 2016

March 31, 2016

Want to Make your Wife Insanely Happy? Try this One Phrase

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled...

March 31, 2016

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase.

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled...

March 25, 2016

Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies

Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses...

March 21, 2016

Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or...

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