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November 2017

November 08, 2017

Love and Laughter: How Humor Can Ease Relationship Tension

Learn what is guaranteed to elicit a smile from your partner. When tensions run high,...

November 06, 2017

Transform Your Relationship With This One Simple Rule

In our research with men, it was clear that one of a man’s most painful...

November 02, 2017

Providing For a Family? It’s About More Than Money

As women’s earning power has changed over the last fifty years, so have marriage dynamics...

October 2017

October 30, 2017

4 Reasons Parents Need to Be The Boss

It wasn’t really a thing before the title song of the hit comedy series Malcolm...

October 27, 2017

Does Your Kid Make You Feel Like You Can Do Nothing Right?

(a special guest post by Debbie Hitchcock) Last week I felt like everything I did...

October 23, 2017

Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity

There’s a couple I know who just seems to have their act together. They’re a...

October 19, 2017

How to Help Your Son Fight These Three Dangerous Lies

As both a social researcher who has interviewed and surveyed thousands of boys and a...

October 17, 2017

Motive Matters: Believing the Best of Your Spouse

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best...

October 13, 2017

3 Surprising Reasons to Initiate Sex With Your Man

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and...

October 11, 2017

How to Fix Teenage Attitude Problems …. Without Losing It

Not that this ever happens to you. But every now and then our kids (girls and...

October 06, 2017

How Healthy He Is Matters to Her

I don’t think there are many who would be surprised to hear that in my...

October 05, 2017

Want More Romance? The 4 Things That Should Be On Your “Don’t Do” List

Who doesn’t love a good “To Do” list? I make them for everything…chores around the...

October 04, 2017

Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready...

September 2017

September 27, 2017

Wives, Fill Up Your Husband’s Mental Instagram

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared...

September 25, 2017

6 Tips From Coaches: How to Be a Good Sports Parent

The other day at a huge high school sports event, I watched a large, loud...

September 20, 2017

Big Fight? What Every Husband Needs to Know

Men, have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated when, after a fight with your wife,...

September 18, 2017

How to Respect Your Husband When You Really Don’t Trust Him

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for...

September 14, 2017

Hurricane Hotties?

In the midst of so much deep hurricane news, can I tell you how happy...

September 13, 2017

How to Stop Male Co-Workers’ Resentment … When You Work Flex-Time

Dear Shaunti,  I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This...

September 11, 2017

The Shock Value of the Competent Dad

I remember a couple of years ago around Mother’s Day, Jeff and I were watching...

September 08, 2017

Are Legos Just for Boys? It’s Complicated

One of the things that years of research with men and women, boys and girls,...

September 06, 2017

Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Imagine a springtime shower without the gentle sound of rain. Or a baseball game without...

September 01, 2017

The Foreign Culture of a Man’s Mind and How to Navigate It 

Sometimes working with men can be very much like working in an unknown culture.

August 2017

August 30, 2017

Make Sure Your Man Is One of the 25%

Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing...

August 28, 2017

The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day

As a busy analyst, author, and speaker my days are full so it can be...

August 25, 2017

How to Regain His Love and Restore Your Relationship

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 5 years and I love him,...

August 24, 2017

Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule

Ladies, imagine that as part of your dream job or volunteer work, you are offered...

August 23, 2017

Guys, She Cares About This One Thing More Than Money

Many guys that I know often feel like they are caught between a rock and...

August 18, 2017

Guys, This Is What Women Really Want

Guys, women can seem SO complicated. How can you know what’s really in her mind?...

August 14, 2017

How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Men, have you ever been surprised when you’ve tried to surprise your wife? I heard just...

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