Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity

Last updated on: January 1, 2018 at 5:08 pm by Shaunti Feldhahn

Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage Negativity 2018-01-01T17:08:05-04:00 Shaunti Feldhahn

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Tweet this: Sometimes, changing our feelings requires acting as if something is true and then discovering it really is true.

Tip #3 Take the action, and the feelings will follow

Sometimes, changing our feelings requires acting as if something were true…and then you might actually discover it is true. You think your wife doesn’t appreciate you? Act as if she does and you most likely will see evidence of her appreciation. You don’t think your husband can handle the kids while you’re out for a girls’ night? Act as if he can and you most likely will see how happy and secure the kids are when you get home. As one couple I interviewed put it, “We have found that when we act loving, then eventually, wow, we are loving!”

Tweet this: Sometimes, changing our feelings requires acting as if something is true and then discovering it really is true.

We can’t buy into the lie that we are powerless to control our feelings. We have the ability to choose to be positive instead of allowing ourselves to be constantly dissatisfied. Practice “happy” and nix the negative, and watch your marriage go exactly the direction you are steering it!

Tweet this: We can’t buy into the lie that we are powerless to control our feelings.

Helping people thrive in life and relationships is Shaunti Feldhahn’s driving passion, supported by her research projects and writing. After starting out with a Harvard graduate degree and experience on Wall Street, her life took an unexpected shift into relationship research. She now is a popular speaker around the world and the author of best-selling books about men, women, and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage)

Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge, demonstrates that kindness is the answer to almost every life problem, and is sparking a much-needed movement of kindness across the country. Visit www.shaunti.com; for more.

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