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Last updated on: August 9, 2013 at 10:09 am by Angus McMahan
AskAngus18: Stone walls do not a prison make 2013-08-09T10:09:45-07:00 Angus McMahan
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Worried Witchy Wife: My husband is in prison.
He was imprisoned originally for an incident in which no one was killed or even hurt, and there wasn’t even an allegation of actual physical violence; nothing was stolen or destroyed; no drugs were involved. And yet, his sentence is 20 years!
It’s been more than three years now and I want him home. Shocker, huh? In circle, I have lit 3 candles: a pink one to surround him with healing so that he can release the anger and bitterness in his heart; a white one to send him protection of his mind, body, soul and spirit while in prison; and a purple one to send out the justice to rectify this situation, soon, and get him home.
When they burned out, I lit new candles in the same way but this time I was more specific: that the current writ of habeas corpus our lawyer has filed be accepted — if it is he will be released immediately to await trial on the original charges, and our lawyer is certain he will be found not guilty.
I was prompted to write this after I read a past blog where you said the deities sometimes get a kick out of granting requests and then just letting the chips fall where they may.
So is the safest bet not to ask or send out intent at all? How do we make our own will and desires known while also showing respect for the will and plans of Deity? Is purity of heart and intention enough to protect us from the whims of our gods and goddesses?
Hey WWW, thanks for writing. That is quite a story! (I had to edit it down considerably.) First off, let’s talk about YOU. I know all of
your time, energy and resources have been put into bettering your husband’s situation, but here’s the thing: The last thing he wants for you is for you to be in a prison too.
So as you go about the mundane and the magical work of freeing your partner, do not neglect yourself, or your right to a fulfilling
Witchy fun
life. There is no reason why this situation should destroy your world as well as your unfortunate husbands’. Do what you can to help him, but remember that what he wants most in this case is for YOU to be happy.
There is a great tendency to feel extraordinarily guilty when one experiences joy in this type of situation. Try to fight that. You have every right to laugh and dance and see the wonders of this beautiful world while you are also doing this good work. I am sure that he wants you to be happy, so go forth and do so – you have permission!
At the very least, being adventurous and sparkly will perk up your visits and letters. Remember, he is living through you now – show him the good life that is waiting for him when he is released.
Now let’s address each of your 4 questions seperately.
- 1) “I was prompted to write this after I read a past blog where you said the deities sometimes get a kick out of granting requests and then just letting the chips fall where they may.”
Ah, you are an astute reader! That was from THIS column, and the angle there was whether you should be careful what you ask for because you might get it. In this case though it appears you have done your research, meditated carefully, and have been specific in your spellwork. I wouldn’t worry on this count.
- 2) “So is the safest bet not to ask or send out intent at all?”
It is if you are an Agnostic or Atheist. But for those of us with a relationship with Deity, it behooves us to yank on the Goddess’ sleeve every so often and clue Her in to what is going on in our world. DO send out your intent, but do NOT attach an alarm clock to your petition; the Gods work at their own pace. Do what you can on this end (and don’t forget that bit above about about having some fun), and know that you – and your incarcerated hubby – are loved by the Gods.
- 3) “How do we make our own will and desires known while also showing respect for the will and plans of Deity?”
Approach with reverence and give of yourself fully. What the Gods and Goddesses are interested in is us, full and complete. So do not hide anything. The phrase here is “Perfect Love and Perfect Trust”. Don’t be afraid to cry in front of the Gods, or to cry TO the Gods. Railing and wailing to Deity is a part of many spiritual paths – let loose: being honest with your Gods is being honest with yourself. Good things will result.
- 4) Is purity of heart and intention enough to protect us from the whims of our gods and goddesses?
Nope. But its really all a matter of perspective. As stated above, the good folks upstairs operate on a different scale than we do. (My favorite line from the movie “Oh God!” is George Burns’ God explaining to John Denver, “When I woke up this morning, Sigmund Freud was still in Medical School.”)
Existing in eternal, radial time is hard for us to comprehend, and so some of the Gods actions (or non-actions) may seem baffling to us, in our limited linear-time, 3-D persepctive. The Gods are not capricious as much as they are deliberate. They see much more than we can ever imagine.
In short, hang in there. Do everything you can, on the paperwork level, on the magical level, and on the getting out and having a great time level. ALL of these are helping your Partner.
~AskAngus
Angus McMahan
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