Patheos

BuddhistCatholicContemplativeEvangelicalGeneral ChristianHinduJewishLatter-day SaintMuslimNew VisionsProgressive Christian

Beliefs

Topics

Columnists

Resource Library

Research Tools

Video

Podcasts

Thought Readers

Faith In Media Tracker

Newsletters

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Patheos

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Follow Patheos Patheos on Facebook Patheos on YouTube

A Few Grown Men

Gangs fathering the fatherless

Last updated on: June 12, 2013 at 12:01 am   by David Murrow

Gangs fathering the fatherless 2013-06-11T13:09:46-06:00 David Murrow

LOGO Patheos Explore the world's faith through different perspectives on religion and spirituality! Patheos has the views of the prevalent religions and spiritualities of the world.

Police in Los Angeles are battling an upsurge in gang activity. Officer Frank Flores of the LAPD estimates that more than 200,000 gang members call Los Angeles home. José is typical:

José came from a broken family and joined [a gang] when he was 13. He was arrested three times, the last time at age 19 for killing a homeless man with other gang members and stealing 26 dollars he was carrying.

José recently left prison and is trying to reform his life by working for Homeboy Industries, a Los Angeles group that provides jobs to former convicts. “I want to change, I want to change,” he says. Then he goes silent. Without his gang José seems lost.

Why is José so drawn to his gang? “A gang gives you something that nothing in the world or no amount of money can give you: a family, an acceptance,” he said.

Many troubled men grow up without strong male role models. They join gangs because they find father figures there.

Why don’t these men turn to church? Maybe it’s because the congregations they’ve attended are predominantly female, and the spirit of the place feels so warm, nurturing and gentle. Young men actually prefer the fear, intimidation and pain of gang life to the cushiony softness of church life.

This is not a new problem in the church. Almost 2000 years ago the Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthians:

I do not write these things to shame you, but as my beloved children I warn you. For though you might have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet you do not have many fathers; for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel. Therefore I urge you, imitate me.

Our churches are full of men who want to stand up and teach, but how many are willing to do the hard work of fathering other men? How many men are transparent enough with their lives to say, “Imitate me?” How many congregations have created the support structures that spiritual fathers need to do their work?

Gangs are more than willing to father the fatherless. What about the church?

Bullying

Church

Discipleship

Leadership

masculinity

Parenting

Prison Ministry

youth culture

Previous Post



June 10, 2013

Lessons learned from drunk kings and naked women

Next Post



June 14, 2013 Daddy's Girl (part 2)


Browse Our Archives

Select a Category Book Giveaway Book Review Bullying Career Christmas Church devotion Discipleship Donald Miller Drugs & Alcohol Easter eternity evangelism Family food giving thanks God humor James H. Pence Jonathan McKee Leadership love Marcus Brotherton marriage masculinity men's ministry men's studies movies music Parenting Pastoring patriotism persecution pilgrim politics pop culture Prayer Prison Ministry prosperity religion Saul secularism sex Social Media Television Thanksgiving Uncategorized women Worship youth culture

Select a Month December 2014 November 2014 October 2014 June 2014 May 2014 April 2014 March 2014 February 2014 January 2014 December 2013 November 2013 October 2013 September 2013 August 2013 July 2013 June 2013 May 2013 April 2013 March 2013 February 2013 January 2013 December 2012 November 2012 October 2012 September 2012 August 2012 July 2012 June 2012




TAKE THE

Religious Wisdom Quiz

How many plagues did God send upon Egypt?

Select your answer to see how you score.

Seven Twelve Ten Twenty

Related posts from A Few Grown Men

Family

Marijuana Use Actually Declines?

A Few Grown Men

Family

Is Planned Parenthood Right?

A Few Grown Men

Family

The Secret to Quality Time with Your Kids

A Few Grown Men

Family

Slutty Isn’t Offensive, But Skinny Is

A Few Grown Men

TRENDING AT PATHEOS Family, Parenting and Religion

Jad Gillies on New Hillsong Worship Songs and...

For worship leader Jad Gillies, Hillsong Worship’s next chapter is not about...

Looking at the Largest Orthodox Cathedral on Earth

  There is often a considerable amount of anger and, shall we...

The Problem with False Prophets

Miller’s Station UMC| 10/18/26| Anchor Verse: Jeremiah 23: 1, 9-23   I...

Emotion in Early Christianity by Andrew Crislip

Andrew Crislip’s Emotion in Early Christianity examines an often overlooked dimension of...

16 Spiritual Touchstones for a More Grounded Life

  After decades of spiritual study, here are 16 principles I try...

Catholic Evangelization: Sharing Your Faith Every Day

Welcome back to the Graceful Awakening mini-series called, “From Faith to Mission.” ...

view all Family, Parenting and Religion blogs

Patheos on Facebook Patheos on YouTube

Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In Subscription Support

Copyright 2008-2026, Patheos. All rights reserved.

Subscription Support Ad-Free & Subscriber Log-In

Follow Patheos Patheos on Facebook Patheos on YouTube