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Shaunti Feldhahn

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Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard graduate, best-selling author, and social researcher who focuses on understanding the inner thoughts, feelings, and needs of people in relationships. Formerly working on Wall Street, she now uses her analytical skills to uncover small changes that can significantly improve marriages, families, and workplace dynamics. Shaunti's books, including For Women Only and For Men Only, have sold over two million copies and are published in 22 languages. She is also a popular speaker, offering insights from over a decade of research. Based in Atlanta, Shaunti is a wife, mother, and passionate about living a balanced life. She writes the popular Ask Shaunti column on Patheos.

Works by Shaunti Feldhahn

The Dating Recession: Why 70% of Singles Aren't Dating

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 21, 2026

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6 Ways to Talk about Gender Differences (Part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 05, 2025

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6 Ways to Talk about Gender Differences (Part 1)

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 04, 2025

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What Your Husband Is Really Thinking When He Wants Sex

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 14, 2025

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What I’m Loving Lately – Summer 2025

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 24, 2025

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Boy Mom Cracks the Code on Male Behavior: Jenilee Samuel

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 17, 2025

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Fatherhood: Dave Barnes Ponders the Laboratory Called Home

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 12, 2025

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8 False Expectations Newlyweds Should Avoid (Part 4)

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 04, 2025

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8 False Expectations Newlyweds Should Avoid (Part 3)

Shaunti Feldhahn | May 29, 2025

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8 False Expectations Newlyweds Should Avoid (Part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | May 20, 2025

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8 False Expectations Newlyweds Should Avoid (Part 1)

Shaunti Feldhahn | May 15, 2025

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Fame, Faith, and Putting Marriage First

Shaunti Feldhahn | May 07, 2025

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Behind the Scenes in the Speaker Life

Shaunti Feldhahn | May 01, 2025

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5 Quick Steps to Calm a Stressed-Out Child (Part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | April 22, 2025

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5 Quick Steps to Calm a Stressed-Out Child (Part 1)

Shaunti Feldhahn | April 15, 2025

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How to Deal with Difficult People (part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | April 08, 2025

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How to Deal with Difficult People (part 1)

Shaunti Feldhahn | April 01, 2025

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Perfect Practice Makes Perfect (Part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | March 25, 2025

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Perfect Practice Makes Perfect (Part 1)

Shaunti Feldhahn | March 18, 2025

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With Money, the Three Gs Matter (part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | March 11, 2025

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With Money - the Three Gs Matter

Shaunti Feldhahn | March 04, 2025

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Why Can’t My Husband Seem to Take Criticism Part 2

Shaunti Feldhahn | February 26, 2025

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Why Can’t My Husband Seem to Take Criticism

Shaunti Feldhahn | February 18, 2025

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From Struggle to Strength: A Marriage Transformation Story

Shaunti Feldhahn | February 12, 2025

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Why Doesn’t my Wife Feel Secure?

Shaunti Feldhahn | February 06, 2025

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Welcome to Our Podcast – and our Crazy, Unscripted Story!

Shaunti Feldhahn | January 28, 2025

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Lessons from the LA Fires on Persevering through Pain

Shaunti Feldhahn | January 23, 2025

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I Wish You Could Hear This

Shaunti Feldhahn | January 16, 2025

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Top 10 Blog Posts from 2024

Shaunti Feldhahn | January 07, 2025

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Looking Back, and Looking Ahead

Shaunti Feldhahn | December 31, 2024

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A Christmas Prayer for You

Shaunti Feldhahn | December 24, 2024

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Merry Christmas, From my Team to You!

Shaunti Feldhahn | December 19, 2024

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The 12 Days of Christmas Break: Connect with Your Kids

Shaunti Feldhahn | December 10, 2024

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Are You “Falling Out of Love” … or is it Burnout?

Shaunti Feldhahn | December 03, 2024

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Try a New Spin on Thankfulness This Thanksgiving

Shaunti Feldhahn | November 26, 2024

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5 Powerful Ways to Stop Arguments Before They Start

Shaunti Feldhahn | November 19, 2024

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3 Steps to Take When the Wife Earns More

Shaunti Feldhahn | November 12, 2024

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Encouraging Secret that Will Transform Your Election...

Shaunti Feldhahn | November 07, 2024

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This Encouraging Secret Will Transform Your Election...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 30, 2024

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Breast Cancer Awareness Month: My Mom’s Story

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 22, 2024

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For Men Only: An Insider Tip That Could Change Your...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 15, 2024

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5 Truths Your Pastor Wishes You Knew

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 10, 2024

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What Parents Need to Know About College Kids Mental Health...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 01, 2024

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What Parents Need to Know About College Kids & Mental...

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 24, 2024

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"Election Edition" of the 30-Day Kindness Challenge

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 17, 2024

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For Women Only Turns Twenty! My Thoughts — and Yours.

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 10, 2024

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5 Tips for Making New Friends

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 03, 2024

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6 Tips to Trade Helplessness for Healthy Control (Part 4)

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 27, 2024

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6 Tips to Trade Helplessness for Healthy Control (Part 3)

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 20, 2024

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6 Tips to Trade Helplessness for Healthy Control (Part 2)

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 13, 2024

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Closing Our Money “Worry Windows”

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 30, 2024

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Providing For a Family? It's About More Than Money

Shaunti Feldhahn | November 02, 2017

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4 Reasons Parents Need to Be The Boss

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 30, 2017

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Does Your Kid Make You Feel Like You Can Do Nothing Right?

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 27, 2017

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Want a happy marriage? 3 Ways to Nix All Marriage...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 23, 2017

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How to Help Your Son Fight These Three Dangerous Lies

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 19, 2017

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Motive Matters: Believing the Best of Your Spouse

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 17, 2017

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3 Surprising Reasons to Initiate Sex With Your Man

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 13, 2017

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How to Fix Teenage Attitude Problems .... Without Losing...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 11, 2017

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How Healthy He Is Matters to Her

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 06, 2017

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Want More Romance? The 4 Things That Should Be On Your...

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 05, 2017

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Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

Shaunti Feldhahn | October 04, 2017

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Wives, Fill Up Your Husband's Mental Instagram

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 27, 2017

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6 Tips From Coaches: How to Be a Good Sports Parent

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 25, 2017

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Big Fight? What Every Husband Needs to Know

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 20, 2017

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How to Respect Your Husband When You Really Don't Trust...

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 18, 2017

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Hurricane Hotties?

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 14, 2017

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How to Stop Male Co-Workers' Resentment ... When You Work...

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 13, 2017

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The Shock Value of the Competent Dad

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 11, 2017

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Are Legos Just for Boys? It's Complicated

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 08, 2017

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Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 06, 2017

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The Foreign Culture of a Man’s Mind and How to Navigate...

Shaunti Feldhahn | September 01, 2017

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Make Sure Your Man Is One of the 25%

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 30, 2017

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The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 28, 2017

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How to Regain His Love and Restore Your Relationship

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 25, 2017

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Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 24, 2017

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Guys, She Cares About This One Thing More Than Money

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 23, 2017

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Guys, This Is What Women Really Want

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 18, 2017

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How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 14, 2017

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How to Effectively Boost Your Son's Back-to-School...

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 08, 2017

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What You Need to Survive the Flight from Hell (Featuring a...

Shaunti Feldhahn | August 01, 2017

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4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 26, 2017

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When He Denies Needing Your Help, Here's Why

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 21, 2017

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5 Reasons to Leave the Lights on for Sex

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 19, 2017

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3 Sneaky Ways You’re Making Yourself Stressed

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 17, 2017

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3 Simple Compliments That Will Please Your Wife

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 12, 2017

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4 Ways to Spark More Romance in Your Relationship

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 10, 2017

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Sex and Men's True Hidden Desire

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 06, 2017

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2 Reasons You Should NOT be Independent

Shaunti Feldhahn | July 04, 2017

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4 Tricks to Control Your Temper When You Want to Explode

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 30, 2017

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The Guaranteed Cure for “Grumpy Guy” Syndrome

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 29, 2017

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4 Things That Will Strengthen Your Long-Distance...

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 26, 2017

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4 Powerful Ways to Help Your Husband Feel Amazing

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 22, 2017

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Two Practical Ways to Encourage Your Sons

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 21, 2017

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The Secret to Being a Wife He Adores

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 19, 2017

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What You Need to Do Before You Have Sex With Your Wife

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 14, 2017

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The Most Horrifying Current Terrorism Event You Don't Know...

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 12, 2017

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These Four Phrases Will Make You a Hero to Your Wife

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 09, 2017

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You Need to Know These 4 Pitfalls for Teenage Boys

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 07, 2017

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How to Respect An Imperfect Husband

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 05, 2017

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This One Sneaky Trap Will Kill Your Marriage

Shaunti Feldhahn | June 02, 2017

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